I once had a mentor beautifully summarize all struggles of
men.
Girls: Gold: Glory
Interestingly: Job testified that he didn’t fall for any of
these. (Despite his Calamity)
•I made a covenant with my eyes that I would not look on a woman to lust
(Job 31:1).
•I gave food and clothing to the poor and the widow and the orphan (Job
31:16-20).
•I did not let my own prosperity get in the way of my relationship with
God (Job 31:24-28).
Hard topic of the day deals with the first. But not the
physical ones, because lets face it few guys have over 10 girlfriends in a life
time. All guys however are tempted by the girls on the web.
When I lead Discipleship groups for guys, I like to start
the week out with asking a simple question. “How’s your porn?” The guys will
laugh but then the honesty begins.
WHY is Porn such a struggle?
1. God is a great creator!
a.
I love beautiful things. Stunning Motorcycles, Cars and of course the Human Body. Thankfully I don’t get punched
by my wife when I enjoy beautiful cars and motorcycles.
b.
It is perfectly ok to acknowledge that someone
is beautiful! I’d say it is respectful. It isn’t ok to lust after them. In my
mind I’ve determined when I see a beautiful person, I commend the Lord and move
on. Notice, if you involve the Lord in your thought process it makes it hard to
go on sinning.
2.
Aging and Waiting
a.
I think that I’m one of the few people who’s
really thought much about this reason behind the advancing sexuality of
America. 1. People are going through Puberty at younger ages. (1900 – age of
start 15, 2012 – age of start 12) 2. People are being told to wait to marry
later in life. (1900- 16, 2012 -26) In 1900 you would only wait 1 year before
marrying. But now we’re expecting our students to wait 14 years! No wonder why
Christian students are more promiscuous and addicted to porn than ever before!
3.
We are druggies!
a.
Sexuality releases numerous different drugs
within our brain. Hence the affects you feel when being sexual. "In God's plan, this would be his wife, but for many men it
is an image on a screen. Pornography thus enslaves the viewer to an image,
hijacking the biological response intended to bond a man to his wife and
therefore inevitably loosening that bond."
b.
What about our single brothers?
Sorry mates, you gotta rely upon the Lord! (I’d suggest reading Every Young Man’s Battle)
4.
The Coolidge
Effect
a.
This is a phenomenon seen in
mammalian species whereby males (and to a lesser extent females) exhibit
renewed sexual interest if introduced to new receptive sexual partners. In
Layman terms, guys get addicted to porn because they get addicted to seeing new
people. Where as the same partner doesn’t produce the same effect. This isn’t
even only in Ejaculation, but also level of dopamine (one of those brain drugs
we’re addicted to).
5.
Men's exposure to sexually explicit
material is correlated with social anxiety, depression,
low motivation, erectile
dysfunction, concentration problems, and negative self-perceptions in terms of physical
appearance and sexual functioning.
Is there Hope? YES!
1. Acknowledge God's hand.
2. Don't force people to wait so long! If they want to marry, let them! (my grandma got married at 13)
3. Enjoy the drugs with your wife! Not your Computer!
4. The beauty of marriage is LOVE! Not quickies!
Lastly - Install these guys' computer program ! http://www.xxxchurch.com/
I’ve used xxxchurch on my computer ever since I’ve entered
Seminary. My pastor and wife receive the report as an accountability. Notice,
this isn’t a cure, the cure is “iron sharpening iron.”
